What is Bullying?


 What is Bullying? 

Bully. What does the word make you think of? For some people it's that girl at school who always makes fun of them.

For others it's the biggest guy in the neighborhood who's always trying to beat up or take their things.

Sometimes "bully" means a whole group of kids ganging up on someone else. No matter what situation or form it comes in,

bullying can make you feel depressed, hurt, and alone.

It can keep you from enjoying the activities and places that are part of your life.

Bullying happens everywhere, whether it's your town or Paris, France. It happens all the time, and it's happened since forever.

Because it's so common, many adults think bullying is just normal part of growing up.

You've probably heard parents or teachers say things like: "Don't let it get to you" or "You just  have to be tougher"

But why should something that can make a person so miserable have to be part of growing up? The answer is, it doesn't!

Each and every one of us has the right to feel safe in our lives and good about ourselves.

So we put together this guide to give you all the basics of dealing with bullies. Let's start by looking at the different kinds of bullying.

 

Physical bullying means:

*Hitting, kicking or pushing someone - or even just threatening to do it.

*Stealing, hiding or ruining someone's things.

*Making someone do things that they don't want to do.

Verbal Bullying means:

*Name-calling
*Teasing
*Insulting

Relationship Bullying means:

*Refusing to talk to someone.
* Spreading lies or rumors about someone.

*Making someone feel left out or rejected.


 

What do all these things have in common? They're examples of ways one person can make another person feel hurt, afraid, or uncomfortable.

When they are done to someone more than once,and typically over a long period of time, that is bullying.

The reason why one kid would want to bully another kid is this: when you make someone feel bad, you gain power over him or her.

Power makes people feel like they are better than another person, and then that makes them feel really good about themselves. Power also makes you stand out from the crowd.

It's a way to get attention from other kids, and even from adults.

Did you Know.. The word "bully" used to mean the total opposite of what it means now? Five-hundred years ago, it meant friend, family member, or sweetheart. T

he root of the word comes from the Dutch "Boel", meaning lover or brother. Big change.

 

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Cyber Bullying Tips for Parents:


Boys are as likely as girls to be targeted for threats or efforts to humiliate them on the internet. Gender does not affect a child's online risk profile. i-Safe America has created this list of internet safety tips to help your family recognize online danger and take the appropriate steps to protect yourselves.

 

*Don't open/read messages from cyber bullies: Your child can't be intimidated by messages from cyber bullies they never open. Teach your child to curb his or her curiosity to read and respond to a message if they suspect or know a cyber bully has sent.

 

*Encourage your child to tell an adult: For some children, their reaction to being bullied is not only fright, but also confusion about how to react appropriately. Coach your child to tell a trusted adult if they are ever being bullied.

 

*Report cyber bullying: Internet Service Providers can often block a cyber bully, and schools have special procedures and rules to handle bullying. Save the bully's message and screen name, then contact and report it.

 

*No chatting while you are angry: Sending angry, hostile or taunting messages attracts cyber bullies. Make certain your child is not using e-mail messages or chat rooms to vent their own anger in a way that hurts others.

 

*If you are threatened with harm, tell the police: Even if you don't know how to identify the individual who has made the threat , law enforcement  often has access to the information and may be able to track down and arrest them before they do harm.

 

*Be part of your child's online experience: It can be a fun journey to explore the wonders of the internet as a family. As computer - savvy as kids and teens are today , they may even teach you a thing to two!

 

*Get involved with i-SAFE AMERICA : These are only some of the measures you can take to ensure your child has a safe and enjoyable internet experience.

Provided by i-Safe America   www.i-safe.org